Author’s Note: Lexine Dy is a 17-year-old girl who believes that she expresses herself best through writing. Her spoken word poem entitled ‘You Are Not Alone’ is written in the perspective of a friend of someone who’s going through a mental health issue. After gaining inspiration from the insights and experiences of others, she believed it was so important to get her message across by sharing it to a wider audience. Share this with anyone you think needs to hear this.
Forgive me, for I may not know exactly what you may be going through,
But please know that I will do everything I can to be here for you
Every waking hour, I’ll send you virtual flowers and remind you to take a shower
Just until you know how much I care.
I’m sorry for all the times I tried to help but sort of make things feel worse
Now I know, sometimes, actions can speak louder than words
Someone once said, “It’s pointless to try to fix someone’s illness”
Because you can’t change someone without their willingness
It could get exhausting—turning one into something they are not
It doesn’t work, it definitely does not
But it is not our fault, and neither is it theirs.
So, all that’s left for us to do is to simply be there
To catch them when they fall, bend, or break,
To pick up the pieces no matter how long it will take,
To listen to them with our heart, ears, and arms open wide,
Ready to accept and support whatever it is they decide
Because that’s what true friends are for;
Not to tell them what to do, not to do, or what the future has in store,
But to reassure them that they matter.
And it doesn’t matter what others say,
“Mind over matter”, “at least”, “Everything’s gonna be okay”
You have every right to feel how you’re feeling
By the way, how are you feeling?
Is there anything I can do to help?
Help is something you are allowed to ask for
Whenever you need it, just call my name, and I’ll be right at your door (step)
Every step of the way, I’ll be cheering you on
I’ll be right by your side
And when you feel like there’s just not much to live for,
I’ll tell you I’m so glad you’re alive
Like a broken record, I’ll leave you a thousand messages saying,
“I believe in you. I care for you. I’m here to support you.
I miss you. I love you. I’ll always be there for you.”
Yet, for weeks, I still don’t hear a word from you.
The doctors say, “Only time will tell when you will be ready”
And that it’s not your fault that you’re feeling unsteady
I’m sorry for making you feel sorry for making me worry
Cycles of apologies float above my head in its own little flurry
“It’s complicated”; that’s how grown-ups would describe such
The feeling of having a friend who’s going through so much
You must be feeling overwhelmed or afraid to overwhelm me,
But don’t worry, I can handle it. It’s my job to take care of me.
I know you never asked me to do any of this for you,
But after everything you’ve done for me, this is the least I could do.
My dearest friend, we’ll get through this together
We’ll brave every storm, wind, season, or weather.
Take my hand, and I promise you won’t turn me into stone
Because in this battle, you are not alone.