Celebrating Pride Month: An Uprising Out of the Shadows | By Jochelle Campo

It’s L.G.B.T.Q Pride Month and we need to fill the gaps in the society and accept everyone’s diversity. In relation with the L.G.B.T.Q Pride Month, we all should be aware of the foundation of the famous L.G.B.T.Q Movement that created a huge significant impact for the L.G.B.T.Q Community. It was on June 28, 1969 when the Stonewall Uprising happened because of the raids the police were making in Greenwich Village gay bar called the Stonewall Inn. The police raids ignited violent conflicts and protests that lasted for days. The L.G.B.T.Q. community had a long process of acquiring their rights and that is why today there is change as they are more empowered and accepted.

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However, the battle is not yet done; there are still a lot of people who narrow mindedly discriminate the beautiful rainbow handprints of the L.G.B.T.Q community. The world should be a secure place for every human being in this world and the menacing problem in discrimination is that it induces mental health problems. Everyone should bear in mind that human rights are embedded in the rule of law and Gay Rights are human rights as well.

In relation with the illustrious celebration of Pride Month, we interviewed an expert in LGBT Psychology who is also a part of the LGBTQ community herself and also a member of the Psychological Association of the Philippines- LGBT Psychology Special Interest Group, Ms. Riyan Portuguez, RPsy, RPm.

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During the interview, we asked her how she usually cope up with people who do not recognize your difference and rights?

She calmly stated that:

As time passed by, I learned to not be bothered by these people. Reacting too much on their negativity feeds them. So instead, I focused more on what really matters such as continuing the LGBTQ+ campaigns, taking charge of the conversation when there’s opportunity for me to educate others, increasing LGBTQ+ visibility through social media, etc.”

As the interview went on, we delved to asking how the stigma and discrimination affect the L.G.B.T.Q Community as it is a common notion that the L.G.B.T.Q Community is still facing a lot of puddles in walking with life everyday with people who are questioning them.

Ms. Riyan Portuguez explained that:

There are a lot of stigma and discrimination going on. There are almost 80 countries where being LGBTQ+ is illegal and worse, there are 5 countries where being LGBTQ+ is punishable by death. In workplace, there are still existing reports whereby LGBTQ+ are deprived of hiring and promotion despite their competencies. In most religions, some of us who are persecuted and discriminated against. We are told that our souls will perished in hell and the only way to be saved is by letting them help us. In some households, LGBTQ+ are evicted from their home, deprived of or threatened to discontinue their education because of their SOGIE, and being beaten by coming out as LGBTQ+. There’s a lot more stories that you can’t even imagine, these are few things we deal with the world and it’s disheartening because no people deserved to be treated this way. LGBTQ+ rights are not special rights but of basic human rights. It is normal as it is part of human sexuality supported by numerous research evidences.

 

It’s no wonder why we are highly vulnerable to mental health problems because on top of general stressors, there are stigma and discrimination. Imagine the hurdles we face for being LGBTQ+?”

It has always been a question how people should be sensitive and respectful towards a member from the L.G.B.T.Q. community and to those who needs help to come out to their true selves.

Ms. Riyan Portuguez imparted her knowledge that:

They (people) just need to be more understanding, empathetic, accepting, and nonjudgmental. Whenever they see someone who has difficulty in coming out, they just need to be there. When the person feels accepted and safe, they will come out. They don’t need to out the person that will be rude.”

In relation to how to be sensitive and respectful towards a member of the L.G.B.T.Q community, we asked how we can all be able to advocate in decreasing the stigma and discrimination. Her reply was:

As I have said, I increase the visibility of LGBTQ+ through seminars, workshops, social media, interview engagements, attending pride march, and wearing LGBTQ+ merchs for others to know that I am one with them.

I also join advocacy works such as collaboration with organization or institutions that will help zero in stigma and discrimination on mental health, domestic and family violence, and bullying.”

As we look into more with the connection of mental health with the L.G.B.T.Q. community, we asked for proposed solutions in line with mental health since some studies show that the risk of a mental health condition, like depression, anxiety disorders, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is almost three times as high for youth and adults who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT), some even dies by suicide as some of them are not accepted by their own families? In this question I learned more that members of the L.G.B.T.Q community do not commit suicide, they die from it because society stimulates it as it wants to accord life with the traditional and parochial approach they had been fond of without realizing how insensitive it is.

Ms. Riyan provided an eye opening answer when she said:

I hope organizations, such as United Nations, will realize that aside from women empowerment, LGBTQ+ should be included in Sustainable Development Goals to achieve gender equality. True gender equality will not be achieved by only including men and women. If you look for Sustainable Development Goal #5 of UN, you will see that Gender Equality goal focused more on women and girl empowerment. I hope they will include us as well since most institutions, especially in the government sectors, follow their plan.

Gender and development offices should also include LGBT+ dialogues and create more projects for LGBTQ+ to alleviate mental health problems.”

We provided a follow up question on how can we help those are still scared and depressed to come out to themselves as part of the LGBTQ since they may lost some of their friends and become hated by some of their family members?

In her authentic answer, she uttered that:

I just make them feel safe, accepted, and heard. I let them talk about their problems without interrupting them and ensure that it’s okay for them to take a little time to come out. I try to be their friend through their darkest day. I think these things are effective since I got feedback from previous LGBTQ+ on their coming out.”

In schools and in some workplaces, discrimination in the L.G.B.T.Q community in the Philippines is still prevalent since only 15% Filipinos reside in areas protected by ordinances against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity (https://www.hrw.org/report/2017/06/21/just-let-us-be/discrimination-against-lgbt-students-philippines).

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This current situation in the Philippines helped us create our next question on: “What advice can you give to those individuals who are part of the LGBTQ that are victims of homophobic bullying and the gossip mill they face whether it be in their workplaces or schools?

Ms. Riyan Portuguez gave a very informative reply to:

Make sure to report the incident, increase your social and emotional support, and don’t be afraid to seek help. You can also join LGBTQ+ support groups so you can feel safe and accepted.”

As a lot of people from the LGBTQ community go through each day afraid that someone will hurt them because of who they are, what advice can you give for them to cope up every day as well? Ms. Riyan gave a beautiful advice:

Reshift your focus to things that really matter. There are more people who love you for who you really are. Know that you are important and beautiful. There’s nothing wrong for being true. Okay? Always love and trust yourself.”

Our next question sparkled from the youth since nowadays, young ones can already determine that they are part of the LGBTQ community but some of them still cannot understand it so we asked Ms. Riyan what is the best way do we to talk with kids about their sexual orientation and prejudice that no mental health problem would affect them as they grow up?

Miss Riyan’s sparking answer puts an emphasis on a reminder what we all need to be aware of that we must:

Remember that sexual orientation, gender identity, and expression (SOGIE) dialogues aren’t exclusive for LGBTQ+ so it will be helpful to all kids to talk about this at their early age. It will teach them to be more accepting, understanding, and empathetic to other kids who don’t share the same sexual orientation, gender identity, and expression (SOGIE). It will also help them to understand that it’s a normal part of human sexuality that no kid should be stigmatized and discriminated against by being what and who they really are.

Lastly, we asked what we must be done to improve more the acceptance of the LGBTQ community. She ended the interview very empowered by saying that:

I think, we need to keep doing what we’ve started and continue to engage more on our advocacy. We are hoping for the passage of the SOGIE Bill to protect our rights.”

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No, You’re Not Just Faking It: Fighting Impostor Syndrome | by Raine Rivas

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It’s been a little more than a month since I graduated. I’m still incredibly grateful that the whole ceremony went smoothly, and that I can look back at the day happily. Everything seemed to fall into place— our wonderful Mass, the songs we composed and sang, and the thrill of seeing some of my best friends receive well-deserved awards. However, to be perfectly honest, as I was in my seat getting ready to deliver what were probably the most important words I had ever written, I had a few moments of overwhelming uncertainty. All of the negative thoughts that had been gnawing at me leading up to this day suddenly returned on full blast. I didn’t know what to do about it, except breathe and push them aside for later.

I can’t tell you exactly what those voices were saying, but it was something along the lines of: Congratulations on fooling everybody. Everyone who hears you do this is going to think that you’re so much smarter and nicer than you actually are. Only you could turn a great opportunity like this into another chance to fake it.

Yikes, right?

Don’t worry! Since then, I’ve mostly gotten over this train of thought and I’m more at peace with what I was able to achieve. But because of this experience, my graduation day became a sort of zoomed-in version of my ongoing journey with something called impostor syndrome. More and more articles are being released about this phenomenon (I’ve included a few links at the end!), but I’m taking this time to talk about my personal experience in the hopes that some of you can recognize your own thoughts and finally give them a name.

For me, senior year was full of opportunities for me to go the extra mile, deepen my love for art and writing, and finally do things I could say that I was proud of. Of course, as with anything else, I’m not 100% satisfied with everything I did as a senior. But one thing I do know is that, in retrospect, I exceeded even my own expectations. I was able to keep my grades up, give advice to friends in younger batches, perform my poetry for the very first time (yay!), and connect with people through music.

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Behind all of these achievements was a difficult lesson that I absolutely needed to learn and take to heart: that it’s okay to say I did well, and to see good things as truly good— not just products of luck, or the trust that other people invest in me. I didn’t finish Grade 12 simply because I got lucky, or because my adviser believed in me so much, or I tricked my classmates into thinking I was competent. Somewhere along the way, I put in the work that was needed to push me forward.

Impostor syndrome takes every chance it can to whisper the opposite in your ear.

It’s the reason you might get that sinking feeling whenever someone compliments you. It’s why you can’t help looking back at your old work and thinking, “gosh, I didn’t do my best there.” It’s the fear that one day, everyone around you is going to realize that you’ve fooled them into thinking good things about you.

To be clear— it’s good to want to be deserving of the praise and recognition you receive, it’s good to make sure that what you do meets certain standards, and it’s good to revisit your past actions to see what you could have done better. However, as we all know, anything can turn bad if it is overextended. Impostor syndrome is what happens when you find yourself getting too caught up with the concepts of perfection and achievement and external recognition.

If you can relate to what I’ve shared in this article, know that almost everyone feels a similar way at one point in their lives or another. So, what can you do to fight it? Start with the little things. When you receive praise, don’t automatically discount yourself (for example: “OMG noooo it wasn’t that good TBH”). Instead, thank that person genuinely and internalize their kind words. Adding onto this, another anti-impostor syndrome measure you can do is to start congratulating yourself on a job well done. Celebrate your achievements and the good things they’ve brought into the world. The world isn’t gonna end just because you took some time to be proud of what you’ve accomplished.

To whoever is reading this, you are amazing! It’s not easy being you. Think about that for a second. You’re not a fraud, and you’re not a disappointment either. As long as you’re putting in the effort to be genuine and work hard, guess what? You have nothing to worry about.

To read up on the different forms impostor syndrome can take: https://www.themuse.com/advice/5-different-types-of-imposter-syndrome-and-5-ways-to-battle-each-one

To get an idea of how much you actually come across impostor syndrome in your daily life:

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Into the 3rd Month of The Year (Hello, March!) | By Maureen Cambay

Let’s admit it. We’ve always been told to compete, to aim for the highest grade, to achieve our dreams by the time we’ve reached a certain age, to be better than anyone else yet rarely have we ever been told that:

“You are enough.”

I’m not telling anyone to settle for less but what I’m saying is that there are times that we have to accept that our pacing is different than someone else’s. We have to accept that it will really take time for us to be the person God wants us to be and it includes not rushing certain aspects of our lives just because it’s not the same as the majority’s.

For example, a lovelife and career. I’m 23 (turning 24 this year, kinda old), still NBSB (no boyfriend since birth) but sometimes society is pressuring me to have a boyfriend. I know in my heart that I’m not yet ready yet sometimes, in a joke, people tell me: “Bakit wala ka pang boyfriend?”, “Ireto kita kay ganyan”, etc. Yet little did they know that I’m still healing. In terms of career, I have a part time job but people tell me to aim for higher goals yet I can’t tell them that I’m still recovering from depression. It just left me speechless because I’m also convinced that: “Yes, they may be right?”

My inner promptings tell me otherwise.

Listen, if we rush things and force them to happen, we will only end up disappointed and confused, especially if we don’t live up to the high expectations of us or if we try to fit in to the society’s mold.

We are all created for unique purposes and we need to see our worth not in comparison to others but someone who’s set apart, someone who’s design is still and will always be tweaked and molded by God.

We also have different seasons and let us just enjoy every part of it. And it will take TIME. The process will be hard since it may include some pruning, sacrifice and pressure but let us remember that it will be for the best in the long run. We need to be patient. Always take note that we are all works in progress, and as Rick Warren said:

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I’d like to end up this with some lines from Hillsong:

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Embrace your Vulnerability | By Sakshi Sahijwani

Rejection hurts the most when it’s something you really really want. It can come in many forms. When the guy or girl you like rejects you, when you weren’t accepted to your dream school, when you don’t make the varsity team — We’ve all been there. I mean, let’s face it, it’s a part of life yet we still refuse to accept it.

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Why is that though? Why is it that we refuse to accept rejection and try to turn the other face? Why does it affect us so much?

There are two types of people. People who try embracing it then crumble and people who crumble then embrace it. “Psh, their loss”, “They might have made a mistake”, “I’m better than them anyways”: These thoughts gather in people who try to embrace it as soon as they get rejected.

On the other hand, there are people who crumble then eventually embrace it. When faced with rejection, they get sad, they cry, they get frustrated — they break down. I’m telling you to crumble. Not the typical advice right?

People usually tell you to stay strong, you’ll get through it, but i’m telling you to break. I’m telling you to not fake how you’re feeling just because someone is telling you to “stay strong” because it’s “nothing”.

Stop lying and convincing yourself to be okay because it’s okay to feel that way. In society nowadays, being vulnerable is considered weak. I however think it’s a beautiful thing. Contradictory, i think it makes you SO strong. You faced your rejection headstrong, and that’s the strongest thing you can ever do.

Vulnerability is terrifying. The courage it takes to reveal your heart is one of the most daunting yet rewarding experiences in life.

In time, you’ll be set free.

You Are Not Alone | By Lexine Dy

Author’s Note: Lexine Dy is a 17-year-old girl who believes that she expresses herself best through writing. Her spoken word poem entitled ‘You Are Not Alone’ is written in the perspective of a friend of someone who’s going through a mental health issue. After gaining inspiration from the insights and experiences of others, she believed it was so important to get her message across by sharing it to a wider audience. Share this with anyone you think needs to hear this.

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Forgive me, for I may not know exactly what you may be going through,

But please know that I will do everything I can to be here for you

Every waking hour, I’ll send you virtual flowers and remind you to take a shower

Just until you know how much I care.

I’m sorry for all the times I tried to help but sort of make things feel worse

Now I know, sometimes, actions can speak louder than words

Someone once said, “It’s pointless to try to fix someone’s illness”

Because you can’t change someone without their willingness

It could get exhausting—turning one into something they are not

It doesn’t work, it definitely does not

But it is not our fault, and neither is it theirs.

So, all that’s left for us to do is to simply be there

To catch them when they fall, bend, or break,

To pick up the pieces no matter how long it will take,

To listen to them with our heart, ears, and arms open wide,

Ready to accept and support whatever it is they decide

Because that’s what true friends are for;

Not to tell them what to do, not to do, or what the future has in store,

But to reassure them that they matter.

And it doesn’t matter what others say,

“Mind over matter”, “at least”, “Everything’s gonna be okay”

You have every right to feel how you’re feeling

By the way, how are you feeling?

Is there anything I can do to help?

Help is something you are allowed to ask for

Whenever you need it, just call my name, and I’ll be right at your door (step)

Every step of the way, I’ll be cheering you on

I’ll be right by your side

And when you feel like there’s just not much to live for,

I’ll tell you I’m so glad you’re alive

Like a broken record, I’ll leave you a thousand messages saying,

“I believe in you. I care for you. I’m here to support you.

I miss you. I love you. I’ll always be there for you.”

Yet, for weeks, I still don’t hear a word from you.

The doctors say, “Only time will tell when you will be ready”

And that it’s not your fault that you’re feeling unsteady

I’m sorry for making you feel sorry for making me worry

Cycles of apologies float above my head in its own little flurry

“It’s complicated”; that’s how grown-ups would describe such

The feeling of having a friend who’s going through so much

You must be feeling overwhelmed or afraid to overwhelm me,

But don’t worry, I can handle it. It’s my job to take care of me.

I know you never asked me to do any of this for you,

But after everything you’ve done for me, this is the least I could do.

My dearest friend, we’ll get through this together

We’ll brave every storm, wind, season, or weather.

Take my hand, and I promise you won’t turn me into stone

Because in this battle, you are not alone.

Love, Mental Health, and Other Everyday Gifts: A (Post) Talang Dalisay Valentine’s Special ❤ | By Karmella Tapia

While Valentine’s Day is not everyone’s cup of tea, the holiday still receives an enormous amount of positive attention for the generous love it celebrates at its very core. Indeed, whatever one’s opinion on bouquets and chocolate boxes is, it’s hard not to be moved by the lengths people will go to in spreading a little more love into this divided world.

To honor the *ahem* well-loved occasion, 10 of Talang Dalisay’s own Student Ambassadors have come forward with their personal experiences and stories of giving or receiving unconditional love in the face of mental health struggles.

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We hope their honest accounts can inspire you, move your heart, and remind you of the power held in the simplest of kind actions:

“Coming from a Chinese school that made mental health struggles seem like something that makes you of lesser value, I had little to no knowledge of what to do when my friend opened up to me about him struggling with his mental health. It was scary, because I felt like I might make the situation worse for him if I didn’t act properly. So I listened to him—I listened to everything he had to say. All the heartaches and regrets. After that, I learned that just giving that person time and showing that you care and that you’re there for him is more than enough. Ever since, I’ve learned to allot time for my friends and check up on them from time to time to ensure that they’re really okay, or at times I’d just give them a hug for no reason. Sometimes, there’s no need for words to express your support and love for the people you care about.” -AC

 

“There was a time earlier this year where I just felt so “low” emotionally, mentally and physically. It was a time where I felt so alone despite having all my friends around me. It was my first time feeling that way and I really didn’t know what to do. But then, one day, I decided to open up to my friend about it, not really expecting much from it. But she was able to say all the right things—things that I didn’t even know I needed to hear. She gave me the strength to really try and get better. Sometimes, I would get relapses and the feeling would come back, but I would remember all the friends who care and love for me, which gives me the strength to try and love myself more.” -Anonymous

 

“Once, one of my lowerbatch friends suddenly burst out in tears during our training, so I did everything I could to make sure that she was okay: I followed her pace and even delayed my workout, to the frustration of my two coaches. I had no idea what suddenly made her hurt so much, but all I knew was that she was hurting. So I pleaded with my coach for us to end the team training a few minutes earlier. I ended up walking with her in silence to the lockers and showers and even fixing up her bath things for her. I gave her advice I now can’t remember and then a long hug when she had to leave. But I think I saw her semi-smile when she entered her car. It got me thinking about how when a bit of someone is taken out, you can’t necessarily fill up the hole where that bit was. You can be there though and soften the edges as they heal themselves, every step of the way, even if it’s only in silence.” -GL

 

“One day around the later months of 2017, I received a call from one of my best friends while I was having a massage. I was actually on the verge of falling asleep but then I heard her voice—she was crying and trembling and judging from the noise of the car engines, she was outside. She was on a balcony; she was saying goodbye to me. I immediately leapt and started talking really fast, convincing her to stop what she was doing. I wanted her to know that there’s still so much more in life to look forward to, and if that wasn’t a good enough reason, then I wanted her to know that her friends would be devastated. In the end, my best friend went back inside; we were both crying. And the masseuse was still confused.” -Anonymous

 

“I see love from other people during the times when my friends would sit me down and make me open up to them just so I don’t feel like I’m alone in facing my problems or struggles. We’re all very busy with school and extracurriculars but they take the time to make sure I’m doing well. Sometimes, it would be a simple talk over our breaks, or a chat. Other times, they’d bring me out to my fave restaurants. Whichever one it is, after every heart-to-heart, I always feel a lot better, remembering there are people really willing to listen and hear me out—even if it’s the same problems over and over again.” -Anonymous

 

“It wouldn’t have been the first thing I thought of doing—helping him out that is. I was already having a hard time as it was. Then again, I realized that with what this classmate of mine has been going through, especially when he wasn’t going to school, this was the kind of love that was needed: someone to watch his back and to be shown that he is cared for. So I thought that I could spare some time with a friend to complete at least part of his graduation write up, and even help him collect his class pictures. He doesn’t owe me, but I hope he sees that someone out there still has him covered.” -YT

 

“My mom has always been my number one supporter in all my endeavors. Ever since I transferred schools, I’ve been experiencing more stress because of the struggle of handling two extracurriculars and my academic work. I’d even have breakdowns once in a while. I almost gave up. However in all of those times, my mom was always there to support me. She would give me space or a helping hand when I needed it.“ -MM

 

“One of my long-time friends has been undergoing mental health struggles for a while now, and sometimes it’s surreal thinking of how much she’s gone through since meeting her in grade school. Still, I can’t help but be proud of how far she’s come and how far our friendship has come along with it. I’ve learned after experiencing who she is during her darkest moments that loving her shouldn’t be conditional. I’ve learned to be grateful of how these experiences are helping her grow as a person! I’m sure that I’ll love her even more once she has grown into the person that she’s meant to be.” -AA

 

“I was really having a hard time managing schoolwork and chores when we didn’t have maids to help us. I started on my schoolwork exhausted and late almost everyday after my extracurriculars. I always had sleepless bad days, and what made it even worse was when people would get mad/blame me for things that I never even did. It was a hard time for me, physically and mentally. I prayed for help, and eventually, I got it. All I needed then was someone to hear me out and just be there for me. I am so thankful that that person was understanding in helping me out. That person changed my perspective towards the challenges that I faced—to see and overcome them with positivity and perseverance, even when trying to overcome them could hurt.” -KC

 

“I remember the first time someone opened up to me; I had no idea what to do, or what to say. I remember I tried to put myself in the shoes of my friend and sympathize with him, but I found it really hard because I didn’t think that his problems were really such a big deal, and I couldn’t understand why it was a problem to begin with. Over time, I began to learn that the best thing that you can do for your friends when they open up to you is to listen, and instead of trying to put yourself in their shoes, just show them love and care. Try to understand them, but if you can’t that’s okay, because at the end of the day you aren’t their therapist—you’re their friend. I just needed to be there for them, and show them that they matter.” -JDM

 

Truly, even when Valentine’s Day is over, love abounds in the everyday! So from all of us at Talang Dalisay: We hope you are able to celebrate today in its fullness! And remember that everyone, struggling or not, deserves love—including you! Belated Happy Valentine’s Day, friends!

Note To Self | By Sakshi Sahijwani

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It’s okay to not be okay. Its okay to be conflicted, and to not know what you truly want. It’s okay to be failing in school, to be gaining weight, to isolate yourself from your friends, and to wish that you can just go away for a bit.

You may be at this crossroad of feeling lost and confused, wondering where it all went wrong. How one day it was so good yet the next was terrible.

How one day you were over the moon, and now you don’t even have the energy to go out anymore. How the people who you would once call your family are the same people that you can’t even recognize anymore. Even if there are all these things going through your head, there’s a small voice telling you to push. Telling you that you can get through it, and that it will all pass. This small voice can be classified or interpreted as many things, but I’d like to think of it as God. I believe that God is watching the series of our lives unfold. That He’s the director of this show we call life.

He’s attached to all the characters on the show just waiting for the next episode, the next cliffhanger. That He’s seeing us in our victories, yet He’s also there for us in our struggles. Even though we try to push him away, He stays. He’s the one thing that truly remains constant in a world that’s vastly changing everyday. He has a plan. Now, we don’t exactly know what plans He has in store for us, but that’s the thrill of it all! We don’t know what we signed up for, but He is setting everything into motion. So for everyone out there, who is feeling lost, He’s got you.

I know it’s hard to keep on believing and trusting someone you can’t visually see, but He’s there. He’s right beside you, guiding you in the walk of life. He wouldn’t take you anywhere he knew you couldn’t handle, so believe in Him, and it will all be okay. Maybe not in a day or two, but eventually, it will pass. You are a work in progress, so trust the process.

Fighting the Burnout Culture | By Raine Rivas

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It’s a scenario that’s likely become all too familiar to us– you ask a friend how they are, and they say, “I don’t know. I’m just… tired.” It’s the kind of tired that goes way beyond physical exhaustion, the kind of tired that settles into every aspect of your life. It’s hard to track, and even harder to beat. Luckily, it does have a name: burnout.

Burnout isn’t a completely new concept. The difficulty that comes with trying to switch off the little voice that says “keep working, keep working, keep working” is something that most people usually go through. However, it’s time that we opened up even more extensive dialogue about it, since wearing yourself out to the point of exhaustion could do some serious damage– physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Being in a constant state of tiredness can prevent you from living fully. Also, feeling burnout isn’t sustainable at all. As humans, we all have our breaking points, and the less we hover dangerously close to them, the better.

Perhaps the worst part of burnout is the inner conflict it starts inside you. The ever-so-challenging question of “when do I stop?” can set off an internal argument that just keeps playing on a loop. On one side: “I need to rest. I should rest. Nothing’s working anymore,” and on the other side: “You’re being lazy. Keep pushing. Just work.” Here’s a useful tip– identify the phrase that reveals it all: nothing’s working anymore. The first step to getting over burnout is acknowledging the fact that something’s gone wrong, and that it needs to be fixed before you can carry on with your responsibilities.

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A common metaphor that’s been used to describe burnout is that of a vehicle. Whether you’re a student or someone who’s already working, go ahead and liken yourself to a car. In the same way that it’s foolish to ignore smoke coming out of the hood, it’s not right to feel burnt out and just assume that you can keep going and going. I was able to speak to a friend (a fellow high school senior) about their experience with burnout and how it manifests itself in everyday student life.

They mentioned how it can actually feel like “laziness on steroids”, characterized by increased difficulty in doing schoolwork and a general loss of interest. Coming back to the internal argument I mentioned earlier, well– this is what it can look like on the outside. While the fight continues inside your mind, you might find yourself just blankly staring at your laptop screen, or staying in bed, unable to do anything.

Everyone ends up using their own strategies to lessen burnout, but all of these definitely involves taking a step back and doing a major life re-evaluation. This actually isn’t as daunting as it seems– as long as you start the process with an open mind and a clear intent to change things for the better, you’ll find your way to becoming someone who is on fire for the life they live, not burnt out.

In any case, take this as a sign that: it’s time to give yourself a break.

To see a representation of what burnout can feel like (in the form of a cute comic!) visit:

https://www.facebook.com/CollegeHumor/photos/pcb.10156303442412807/10156303441112807/?type=3&theater

For the Class of 2019: Don’t Get Senioritis – It’s a Block | By Therese Lombos

Senioritis is usually defined as the lax attitude students in their final year of high school take on. While it has been something I’ve anticipated for my whole academic life, I’ve come to the realization that it may be hindering me from making the most of the only year in high school I’ve got left. My whole high school career has led up to taking the college entrance exams, and now that they’ve passed, I’ve been granted the opportunity to enjoy what school has left to offer. Sadly, my constant anticipation for the future, coupled with my senioritis, has transformed my outlook into one of dread rather than excitement.

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Right from the get-go, I intended to cast my senior year aside. “Lose a battle, win the war.” The battle being my academics and the war being CET’s. While I don’t think it was necessarily a bad decision given that you can only take an entrance exam once, it was when I began overcompensating myself for the struggle of maintaining my grades. My scores dipped, and I tried my best to ignore my instinctual panic and urge to make up for it. I turned off the switch it my brain that made me care about school and shifted my focus towards the future.

This wouldn’t have been that big of a deal if it remained temporary. However, by the time CET’s were over, I felt as though it would be too difficult to bring up my grades, and just gave up little by little. I hated going to school, and I constantly ranted about how I hated wasting time. Classes seemed irrelevant, and I just went through the motions. I was slightly losing my mind— I was so bored and I couldn’t find anything I deemed worthy enough to stimulate my brain.

It was only when results came out that I came to the realization that this was my last year, and I was taking it for granted. My friends are headed in different directions, and I won’t be able to go back to the present moment. I had a High School Musical moment— high school wasn’t meant to last forever.

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In light of this, I’ve come up with a new definition for senioritis. Senioritis (n) – a hindrance to the optimization of a senior’s final year of high school; an attitude that prevents one from treasuring their day-to-day lives as high school students. I’ve decided to make my final report card the prettiest one, not because of my grades, but because of the lessons I’ve learned throughout my whole high school journey.

It’s 2019! Talang Dalisay’s 2018 Highlight Reel | By Margaret Lee

Happy happy new year! 2018 is finally over and it has definitely been a very great year for us at Talang Dalisay.

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Last year, we were able to get over 10+ partnerships with other non-profits, receive responses from over 200+ potential student ambassadors, and receive donations of over 30,000 pesos.

Aside from all those numbers, we were also able to open up new programs for people to take part in. New volunteer researchers for wave 2 emerged, as well as our new program for volunteer artists showcasing very critical mental health issues in a creative manner.

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We would also like to thank our old and new partnerships the UP Diliman PsychSoc, PAREF Woodrose School, and the Southeville International School for their never-ending support and invitations to us for helping spread more mental health awareness.

 

So what’s there to look forward to in 2019?

Well, the release of our official shirts will be out this January! All proceeds will go to our special needs scholar. If you would like to order, please visit our merchandise page. Keep your eyes peeled as well for our student ambassadors’ official shoot photos and videos, as they will be modeling our shirts. How exciting!

More than this, we will be faithfully following schedule for our monthly outreaches with our partner schools and communities. To stay up to date with that, please visit our Facebook page.

Lastly, we have a very exciting collaboration with DevSoc (formerly known as Developer’s Society) that is coming up very soon! We can’t wait for you to know all about it.

From the whole team and I, we wish you a very prosperous 2019! I personally had an extremely difficult 2018 so far. I encountered so many hurdles in and out of school. It’s very easy to get swayed and disheartened. But never let your current situation bring you down. Always stay vigilantly positive even at your lowest points. Like my teacher once told me, never quit just because it’s hard. True character is forged in fire. 

Again, thank you so much for your continuous support for Talang Dalisay and what this organization stands for. I am very excited to see it grow more in the future. We would not be anywhere without YOU. Thank you.

Love and light always, 

Margaret Lee

Founder & Executive